Possibilianism: Step Two

Recovery is certainly a journey in personal growth and open-mindedness.  It asks us to be open, to be honest, and to evaluate our beliefs.  Step Two and the “power greater than ourselves” attempts a basis on a spiritual level.  This step is widely considered to be an important part of the foundation of the Twelve Steps.  It therefore became essential that I amend this step so that it could be built upon in a way that would work for my own program.  I do not believe in a higher power.  I tend to call myself an atheist, because it is usually the most effective way to answer the question I know the person is really asking: “Do you believe in God?”  I do not.  However, I do not consider myself an atheist at heart.  I am a Possibilian.

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Changing: Step One

As I mentioned in a previous post, rewriting the twelve steps of AA was an incredibly important part of my initial sobriety.  I found the general process of the steps potentially helpful, but saw some major flaws in its execution.  It seemed to me that taking the steps as-written could potentially take an already desperate, broken individual and take them down even further into self-pity and hopelessness than they had already gone.  The original steps included things like “admitting powerlessness” (Step 1), naming every single one of your “character defects” (Step 6), and eventually doing a nightly inventory of each time you were selfish, self-centered, or dishonest that day (Step 10).  For my own sobriety, these were not exercises I needed to be doing to begin to regain self-confidence and self-respect.  Luckily, there were resources available that would allow me to carefully examine each step and rework each one to better empower and enlighten. Continue reading